Emotional Readiness: If you have spent time introspecting and feel a clear and unwavering conviction that divorce is the best path forward, it could indicate emotional readiness. Trust your instincts, but be sure to carefully evaluate your motivations and reasons.
Legal implications: Familiarize yourself with the divorce laws and regulations specific to your jurisdiction. Understand the legal process, potential outcomes, and the division of assets, debts, and child custody arrangements. If you're in Ontario, you can find a FREE family law information session here: https://fmrcentre.ca/free-family-law-information/
Financial implications: Analyze your financial situation thoroughly. Consider the impact of divorce on your income, assets, debts, and future financial stability. Consult with a financial advisor or accountant if necessary. It would be prudent to have not only savings put aside for legal costs but also access to a line of credit or credit card in case you may need the assistance during this time.
Children's well-being: If you have children, their well-being should be a primary concern. You will want to ensure that the conflict between you and your co-parent remains as low as possible. Check out our blog here about how to co-parent effectively: https://www.divorcemediationontario.com/post/separateddivorcedparentstipstogetalong
Support system: Evaluate your support network, including family, friends, or support groups. Divorce can be isolating, so having a strong support system can provide emotional assistance and practical help throughout the process. If you suspect that your family/friends may not be supportive, then consider looking for support groups in your area (and online) as well as seeking the support of a therapist/counsellor.
Legal representation: It would be prudent to have at least one consultation with a lawyer before you take any major steps in ending your relationship. While one consultation may be prudent, a couple of different consultations with different lawyers would be ideal, as every lawyer has their own style and approach and it may take some time for you to find a lawyer aligned with your values.
Alternative dispute resolution: Explore alternative dispute resolution methods like mediation or collaborative divorce, which can be less adversarial and costly compared to litigation. These approaches focus on finding mutually acceptable solutions rather than relying on a court's decision.
Post-divorce planning: Develop a post-divorce plan that outlines your goals and priorities. Consider housing, finances, career prospects, and any necessary lifestyle adjustments. Having a vision for the future can provide clarity and direction during and after the divorce.
Self-care: Divorce can be physically and emotionally draining. Prioritize self-care by maintaining a healthy lifestyle, seeking therapy or counselling if needed, and finding activities that bring you joy and reduce stress.